In the last lesson I worked though definitions of biblical community and also interpersonal relationships. We looked briefly of the early christian community in Jerusalem and then I went through a proposed hierarcy of relationship just to show that some relationships are really one-sided, and some stay in a frozen state, never able to build nor fully recover. We started out this series with a discussion of finding hidden hurts and animosities and then broken family relationships. During this week lets dive into how community itself helps build relationships.
Community requires more than one person. In the bible it says where 2 or 3 are gathered in my name I will be in the midst of them (Matt. 18:20). We know if one can send a thousand to flight then two can s
end ten thousand to flight.
— Force Mulitiplication in the Right Hands
How could one chase a thousand, and two put ten thousand to flight, unless their rock had sold them, and the LORD had surrendered them? (Deut. 32:30).
Who is their rock? We start out in verse 4 with the Rock is perfect and his ways are justice and he is the Rock that begot you (vs. 18).
Apostle Paul spoke of the Rock this way in 1 Cor. 10:4 this way ‘they drank from the spiritual Rock that followed them, and the Rock was Christ’. In verse 31 we read ‘their rock is not like our Rock’
The LORD will say: ‘Where are their gods, the rock in which they sought refuge? (vs. 37)
Their rock is foreign gods in whom they took refuge. He is the one that sold them out and the LORD make them surrender. So we learn from this that multiplication does not always give success unless our enemies follow foreign gods then the LORD scatters them and delivers them into our hands.
We read in Deut. 28:7::
The LORD will cause your enemies who rise against you to be defeated before your face; they shall come out against you one way and flee before you seven ways.
So it is not just force multiplication, it is also favor! Grace is often defined as unmerited favor.
Likewise community gives us more force against our enemies but we need favor as well. When our enemies follow after wickeness this forces a small multiplication to win over a huge number. Our enemies can be people but in the case of broken relationships it is those things that seperate us and keep our relationships at a low level, even open hostility and anger.
For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places (Eph. 6:12).
We can get enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, and envy. This is what Apostle Paul told the church in Galatia are works of the flesh. Did you know when you manifest works of the flesh you are acting out what principalities, powers, rulers of the darkened world and spiritual wickeness in high place desire? We are slaves to our own masters.
How can you get God’s favor when you are allowing Satan’s kindom to control you? Without God’s favor force multiplication will only operated at the base level, that is one against one, like King Saul. That’s why we fight spiritual wickeness. The LORD is not going to give us ground when we are fighting and bickering. Satan has sold you out when you act in the flesh and so God’s favor does not come about with contentions and confusion.
A community has to be supportive. It has to build, not tear down. It has to have mutual understanding and trust. And then force multiplication gives one for a thousand and two for ten thousand.
Even in the case of King Saul and Young David it was sung ‘Saul has killed his thousands and David his tens of thousands’ (1 Sam. 21:11). We see a force multiplication of David over Saul of 10x. This was because David was righteous especially in his dealings with Saul and because Saul was not righteous and often ‘flew off the handle’. So while the numerical number of fighters in the song was only one the idea here is that favor comes when we live right. Saul was serving pagan gods for it says an evil spirit was upon him. God would give Saul some victory but not as much as young David. Remember David did not wear the king’s armor but went against Goliath only with a sling and a stone. Again, this shows are weapons, even our spiritual weapons, are powerful in the right hands.
— Personal commitment to conflict resolution and relationship building
Even if we are not a strong community with trust and mutual understanding we can build relationships and also work on ourselves.
Minfulness based cognitive therapy (MBCT) and cognitive behavioral theory (CBT) are two current therapies aimed at reducing stress, break depression, and eliminate negative thoughts and behaviors. I am not an expert in these therapies but have had training in assisting individual in crisis, group crisis intervention, and neuroscience. Much of these therapies are focused on the individual and short-term relief from the stresses of life. Additionally, I can recommend ‘Winning the War in Your Mind’ by Craig Groeschel.
Many times we can not control what others do or don’t do. They may have wronged us or we have wronged them. We can and should seek reconciliation but often it is impossible to fully reconcile because of seperation, open hostility (on their part), deceipt, or even death. The bible gives us a guideline for forgiveness.
if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you, but if you forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses (Matt. 6:14-15). Tresspasses include violating boundaries, breaking moral laws, or sacred trusts amongst people and with God. Basically, it means someone done you wrong! There are stipulations in the Torah about repayment and penalities for trespasses but this is not a theological discussion on this subject. The issue here is not only ‘forgiveness’ but also ‘reconciliation’.
Remember the hierarcy of relationships. It the base level we quit having open hostility and anger. This is like when King David allowed Absalam back to Jerusalem three years after killing David’s son Amnon. Yet it was another two years later on that Absalom is brought before the King after an episode involving the burning of Joab’s barley field. Now we have toleration and acceptance but is not a good place to open all our gates to give full trust. For neither dignity nor respect was yet afforded King David, his father. In many ways Absalom stole the people’s trust at the city gates, plotting against his own father. So beware how much you lower your guard when reconciliation has not been fully implemented. It took an estimated 22 years for Judah and his brothers to gain respect for Joseph and then some additional time for Joseph to fully reveal himself.
Sometimes we are alone in our despair and resentment and dealings with unforgiveness. There are no simple solutions. Time might heal all wounds but we are stuck in present time or even left dwelling in the past. That is where vision, godly vision is most useful. Habakkuk was a watchman on the walls. He was an old testament ‘minor’ prophet who prophesied the end of wicked Judah at the hands of the Babylonians and the eventual punishment of Babylon as well because they too are wicked. He says:
I will stand my watch and set myself on the rampart, and watch to see what He will say to me, and what I will answer when I am corrected. Then the LORD answers Habukkuk and says
“Write the vision and make it plain on tablets, that he may run who reads it.
For the vision is yet for an appointed time, but at the end it will speak, and it will not lie.
Though it tarries, wait for it, because it will surely come, it will not tarry. (Habukkuk 2:1-3)
We need to be that watchman too. Waiting to see what the Lord will do about injustice, broken relationships, and how to move forward. With our minds, our spiritual vision, we need to see the reality of justice and also completion of what is envisioned. We should not dwell on the past or even present circumstances. The LORD wants us to see a path forward. One of reconciliation and building, not tearing down. Some things might need removing but the end thereof will be reconstruction and progress. Let us also trust the LORD in the process. Let us also be active in the planning thereof. For the appointed time will come and not tarry forever. The appointed time is called the moedin. It is like the high holidays of Israel. We don’t always the schedule but we can get clues about the season of appointment if we are listening closely.
The topic here, however, is the synergism of community. So how does our reaction to adverse things help build and advance community? We watch to see what the Lord is doing. We are the watchman so his ideas and his ways are what we are to promote. Whether it be one person or a multitude we can promote the ways of peace and reconciliation. When a group of people work together to promote community the effect is multiplied, many times greatly. Have others strayed far off course and followed the ways of foreign gods? Remember, when their god sells them out the effect can get even more multiplied as repentence kicks in. The Lord lines up reconciliation like dominoes lined up to fall.
— The Hidden Effects on the Synergism of Community Building
I spoke on force multiplication and how working together greatly multiplies the effects of reconciliation. But some things are hidden and suprising. Things are hidden in God not because he is unwilling or unable to give us what we need but because of ignorance and stubborness on our parts.
God gives all good things, even gifts, to his children. The problem is not on the giving side, it is on the receiving side. Our reception gets obscured, our antennae are many times defective.
Faith is the evidence of things unseen and the substance of things hoped for (Heb. 11:1). It is the unseen reality that gives us hope. It is the intangibles that help to build community. Faith, hope, and love yet the greatest of these is love. This is what remains (1 Cor. 13:13). Love never fails. It builds relationships and also sacrifices for the common good.
There are times when it seems that nothing is happening, at least nothing in the natural. Things are building behind the scenes and we are unaware of things going on but might be able to observe the effects, if we have the keen perception of a seer. The Apostle says we know in part and then we shall know as we are known (vs. 12). We might not recognize true friendship and new relationships right away. In fact it might come across as hostility at first. Without stressors the genuiness of true faith and friendship cannot be tested to withstand the test of time and trial.
We need to press on despite what natural circumstances seem to indicate. This is the faith aspect of relationship building. Abraham knew that God could raise his son from the dead, if necessary. Yet he pressed on the last three days toward his goal which is the ultimate test of a father.
Hope is between faith and love because it binds together the two. Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but when the desire comes, it is a tree of life (Prov. 13:12). So the longer we have to hope for something the stronger the desire. If we just got everthing right away, served as fast food, then we would never learn what it means to be steadfast, unmovable in the work of the Lord.
In Hebrews 12:1 it says we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses. Faithful witnesses (of history) surround those doing God’s work. But even in our current situation we often miss the hidden support we have and do not even realize that it is present.
For by faith the elders obtained a good testimony (Heb. 11:2). The idea of testimony here is the report given by a faithful witness. It is our testimony that brings about overcoming faith.
By faith we understand that the worlds were framed by the word of God, so that the things which are seen were not made of things which are visible (Heb. 11:3). So if the every world was framed by the invisible word of God then rest assured we have more with us than against us (2 Ki. 6:16). This unseen cloud will prevail against that attacking in the natural. It does not have to just be heaven’s armies. There are many who will join the fight when proper leadership prevails. Proper leadership builds support and that builds synergism. It is also a personality trait that manifests itself in the natural.